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So basically, we all have fights every now and then. Or
basically, they are mindless arguments, which we like to label as "fights". Now
if we lose that argument, we feel frustrated and angry and in the unlikely case
that we DO win the fight, we feel a hollow sense of smugness while the other person
then feels angry. Now what exactly is gained by this futile argument other than
a chance to smirk at somebody?
So yeah, I thought and thought a lot about why people fight
(I have a lot of free time), and the only reason I could think of was- because
we have nothing better to do! Actually, I think ego problems and
misunderstandings might also come into the picture somewhere, but the fact that
we do it to keep our mind occupied seems more plausible, and definitely less stupid!
Now, I have been in my fair share of “fights”. They are, in
my case, just verbal arguments that started off over some silly topics and
snowballed into a something much more intense! I mostly argued with my parents,
(the advantage of being fluent in sarcasm is that you can usually insult the
other person and walk away with your head held high while they try to
comprehend what you just said; sadly, the case is not the same with parents)
and after a few minutes into the argument, we don’t have any idea what were we
initially arguing about; but since both of us feel stupid to admit that, we
keep on arguing till we actually get tired! After which we just get back to our
own amicable self. But that’s just how we are; we know we were being stupid and
we just laugh at the issues and resolve to work at them. But I’ve seen people
who severed years of friendship over some tiny argument. Looking at them, I
really feel quite mature and intelligent!
I used to get pretty flared up too. As I kid, I would not
tolerate any attack on my ego, (that’s not to say that I’ve grown up and become
wiser now; but still I can tell when I’m being stupid) so the simple
conclusion, a large part of time was spent on being a recluse. I thought that
if people grew up, they’d become wiser, more mature. But then seeing adults
behave the same; argue and crib just as childishly, I realized that people
don’t really get mature, they just learn to pretend! So yeah, letting your ego
mar the relationships is not really a smart choice. Sometimes, you just have to
let go; compromise with your ego and adjust a little! I was really surprised
that ever since I started doing that, people more or less started bending too;
they agreed to what I wanted, and futile arguments were avoided!
Fistfights are even stupider. Verbal arguments get escalated
to physical fights just because of the inflated ego of the people! And the
funny thing is, just because two idiots are fighting, their friends join in too
and make it some kind of “gang war”. So it circles back to people having a lot
of free time.
People think backing away and running away are one & the
same thing, and that’s plain foolish! What they don’t know is that any idiot
can fight, but only a sensible fellow walks away from an argument with an
idiot. It’s a great quote that I read somewhere “never argue with an idiot;
first he’ll drag you down to his level and then he’ll beat you with
experience!” Words of wisdom, those are!
And I’m not talking about an intelligent debate where both
the people listen to each other’s views and have a reasonable discussion over
it. I’m talking a purely mindless argument where the only focus is on proving yourself right! It has been
rightly said, “Scholars assert, idiots argue!”
So yeah, next time if before I get into a fight, I’ll think
if it’s really worth fighting about. And if I do get into a fight with a friend,
I’ll admit that atleast I was acting stupid, irrespective of what the
person thinks. But then, that’s just me, isn’t it? (Wink!)
